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What Ever Happened To All Those Guys I Met On AdultFriendFinder?
Posted:Oct 23, 2019 10:38 am
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2021 12:34 pm
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I've been on AdultFriendFinder long enough that I'm finding many of my former sex partners have really moved on with their lives. Many of the single guys are now married and some have even started their own families. It's always funny recall particular sex acts with a guy when you bump into him out at the mall with his .

It's also strange when you look at how much these guys' wives and girlfriends are so different from myself. I've always been curvy and my sex partners tend to really like that. So it's very amusing when I see they married someone who is downright skinny.

Every once in a while one of these guys will reach out for sex but I have mixed feelings about being with married or attached guys. I'll talk about a guy who randomly reached out five years later for a booty call in another post.

Abby
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Dealing With Large Breasts
Posted:Apr 21, 2018 8:58 am
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2021 12:35 pm
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When you have big breasts they define who you are. When you walk they jiggle under your chin, catch small bits of food you drop when you eat (salad dressing and taco fillings are the worst) and act as proud beacons for attention as you make you way through the day.

DD-cup or larger breasts feels like you have two weights on your chest, and dealing with them dominates much of your life. It’s hard work to stand up straight without feeling the weight pulling on you. They throw my center of gravity off so I have to lean back a little to avoid back pain. I almost have scars on my shoulders from tight bra straps.

A lot of athletic activities such as jogging are almost impossible because even with a sports bra my boobs are big and heavy enough to hurt when they bounce up and down. This has caused me to avoid working out at times and is one of the major regrets I have about my body.

Even my friends who love me refer to me as the one with the big boobs. Most guys can’t even carry on a regular conversation without either staring at them or sneaking glances, which are too obvious to miss.

When alcohol is around, random men and women grab a big handful of boob and squeeze them. I’ve had people squeeze them and say, “Honk, honk!”

The catcalls I’ve gotten are stunning. I regularly pass groups of guys and one of them says, “Look at the tits on her!”

Many of my friends now have small . I love and someday want to be a mom so I enjoy holding my friends’ babies whenever I can. But I have had several instances where the baby instinctively tried to latch on for nursing.

You do hear innocently point out the size of my breasts to their family and friends. I hear things like, “Look at the size of her boobies.” I know it’s completely innocent but it takes years of hearing it to develop a thick enough skin not to let it bother you.

I get asked by men and woman almost everyday things like “are they real?” or “what size are they?” It’s not uncommon to have my breasts “accidently” brushed against or men to offer to give me hug for the most random reasons.

People assume anyone with large breasts is either dumb, slutty or both. Women routinely make crude comments. Sometimes they are meant to be compliments but just as much they are a way for other less well endowed women to cope with jealousy issues of having a smaller chest. I know this but it has always bothered me.

Men assume I’m always ready for sex. Guys in bars are so sexually aggressive that I usually get several offers where the guy just comes out with it and suggests we go someplace to be alone. One time I asked a guy why he was so sure I’d jump into bed with him five minutes into our conversation and he said he just assumed it.

Sometimes even women who should know me better, assume I might be a threat if I’m left alone with their boyfriends or husbands. I recently had a very close friend tell me she won’t let her husband be alone with me when I’m showing cleavage or in a swimsuit because he might not be able to control himself.

I’ve had a female boss I deeply respected suggest I try to avoid being alone with male coworkers just in case. I dress conservatively at work so assume there shouldn’t be a problem but I am regularly given advice on how to dress less suggestively by coworkers and superiors. Appearently wearing even a turtleneck sweater or blazer is too suggestive.

Men are actually hesitant to date me because of the attention my breasts attract even the ones who are turned on by my breasts. I’ve been told by a guy I had dated a month or so that he was embarrassed by my breasts size because they made his friends all think I was a bimbo. He even suggested he hesitated to introduce me to his parents because they would get the wrong idea about our relationship once they saw how large my chest was. This from a guy who spent hours playing with them and often told me they were his favorite physical feature on my body.

When it comes to swim suits everything I wear looks indecent. I rarely wear a bikini unless I’m alone, with a group of girls, or trying to lay out. Even when I wear a one piece guys notice. Men have this weird thing where they think they can stare if they’re wearing sunglasses but it’s obvious to me.

I don’t want people to assume having big boobs sucks because there are some major benefits. Showing cleavage and leaning over enough to really display them gets me better service when men are involved. When I was working as a waitress my tips were directly proportional to the tightness of the uniform shirts they made us wear.

It’s awesome to put on a tight t-shirt or dress and seeing a sexy hourglass figure come into shape. Even a simple t-shirt lovingly hugs big boobs in a way to transform what you’re wearing into an incredibly sexy outfit. I look great at the beach or pool in a swim suit with a large t-shirt over it.

When I’m alone with a guy I love wearing bikinis and lingerie. Watching their eyes pop out of their heads is an incredible boost to my ego and I try to remember this feeling whenever my body generates more negative comments. At these times I feel its worth having very large breasts despite the challenges I just described.

A lot of men worship large breasts. I’ll never know why but I’ve learned to just accept it. Having a curvy body seems to encourage a partner to really focus on touching and exploring my body during sex and I’m all about that! Nothing is better than spending a few hours while your partner plays and sucks on your breasts. On top of that, having really big boobs gives you the ability to provide a top notch tit-fuck that most women can’t offer.

Large breasts can get you out of trouble. I did go through a phase where I sought out attention from professors who seemed to stare at my breasts by wearing tighter clothes or showing off my cleavage. It paid off because most of these professors gave me much higher grades and I barely had to try. In one case I missed a test because I was out sick and he said not to bother making it up because he had already assumed I’d get an A. In another situation I didn't even have to show up for class despite an attendance requirement to still get a pretty decent grade.

I’ve been stopped many times for speeding and the cop flirted with me a few minutes and gave me a warning. This situations seem to arise late at night on weekends while I'm out with my girlfriends. I don’t know for sure if my breasts got me off in all of these situations but in a few of them the cops actually referred to my breasts as being "incredible" or "look like a lot to carry" and I’ve never actually gotten a ticket of any kind while most of my friends have.

I don’t recommend woman use their sexuality for like this but I learned a lot about men when I did.

Big breasts have their pros and cons. There are a lot of challenges when you have them. At this point in my life I have learned to deal with most of them and am happy with my body. Maybe someday I’ll take the drastic step of getting a reduction but for now I’m a happy girl who is enjoying what I’m blessed to have.
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Too Close to Home
Posted:Jul 10, 2014 4:39 pm
Last Updated:Mar 13, 2019 10:43 am
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Because of my job I get the summers off. This is great but it means I'm bored during the day while all my friends are at work. Last summer I started up physical relationships with three of the repairmen at my apartment complex.

It wasn't an organized plan to create my own harem. It just kind of happened. They were available and good looking enough. I viewed it as a way to enjoy some of my extra time but never kidded myself that any of these relationships were meant to go anywhere or even continue past the summer.

Once the fall started I didn't even think about it until this summer. In the last month or so, I've resumed my relationships with two of the guys from the previous summer. But out of the blue one of these guys told me some of the other repairman felt insulted that I wasn't sleeping with them too and it was causing a lot of tension among them!

I didn't know what to make of this. I have two relationships that I'm open about but I don't consider myself the public property of the apartment repairmen. Where does this attitude come from?

I recently ended these relationships because I don't want the drama and definitely don't want my roommate to get dragged into this. Everything is cool now as far as I can tell but I'm just very disappointed in the whole situation.

I've had rules about not sleeping with men I work with or who live in my apartment complex and just didn't realize you shouldn't sleep with men who work in your community as well.

Has anyone else had a similiar situation?
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Advice for AdultFriendFinder newbies
Posted:May 19, 2014 7:36 pm
Last Updated:Mar 13, 2019 10:46 am
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I first joined AdultFriendFinder several years ago and more or less enjoyed myself besides making a few mistakes. This site offers a lot but you have to take a few basic precautions or you can get frustrated and burned out. Most of my friends bold enough to admit trying it out all said they got frustrated with the guys.

I figured if I shared a few words of advice a few people could avoid the mistakes that turned so many away.

1. When chatting online beware of the guys who want to hook up that night. Most guys I've chatted with were looking for any piece of ass they could find in the next 20 minutes and they had no intention to ever meet again. I'm not judging women who have enjoyed one night stands because i do more often than I'd like to admit but make sure you know a 15 minute chat is no different than a random pick up in a bar.

If you want to see him again, make him wait a while for it. I know this isn't where you'll meet the love of your life and that most guys on here won't wait and just move on. But that actually helps you figure out who the quality guys are.

2. Buy a box of condoms and bring them to your first date. Everyone on AdultFriendFinder is sexually active and probably has a risk for having a disease. I'll never understand why most guys on here are so willing to go bareback. And I've heard all the excuses, "I ran out" or "I forgot to bring one." Forget it. It's not worth the risk. Use condoms every time.

Many guys just refuse to wear them! Just walk away. This site has plenty of good looking guys who will use them.

3. Find ways to connect on social media so you can figure out if he's attached. It's cool if you don't care and just want to borrow him for a while but don't be surprised by an angry girlfriend. And don't believe the guy when he promises there won't be drama from his girlfriend. If he's attached and you still want to see him you take precautions and assume he's not. His angry girlfriend isn't going to blame him when he gets caught and believe me, he won't be standing up for you by saying "she is no more responsible than I am!"

When I think of more tips I'll post them but this is all I could think of at the moment.

Bye!

Abby
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Too much bad boy?
Posted:Apr 13, 2014 10:16 am
Last Updated:May 19, 2014 7:07 pm
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A few days ago I had a great experience with a guy I met on AdultFriendFinder. We ended up grabbing drinks after work and going back to his place. Sex was great. The guy is attractive and clearly knows what he's doing in the bedroom. He had a lot of the things I like in a sex partner and few if any of the hangups that cause me concern with a new guy. I made up my mind before I left that I was definitely going to get together again with him if possible.

But I just found out he hooked up with someone I know and I have a rule about not sleeping with guys who have slept with a friend. Now I'm not sure what to do. This "friend" in question is more of a friend of a friend but I've hung out with her occasionally and probably will in the future. She only did it once with this guy and I sort of remember her complaining about the guy not calling her back later. This guy is a lot of fun in bed and he's reached out to set up our next date. I really want to sleep with him again but am struggling with this.

Abby
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My Place or Yours
Posted:Apr 5, 2014 12:53 pm
Last Updated:Oct 23, 2019 10:24 am
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I often have a hard time deciding if it's better to invite a new AdultFriendFinder guy to my place or go to his.

I'm reluctant to let a new guy know where I live so sometimes I actually feel better going to his place. But why do so many guys not clean their places up when they have girls over? There's frequently dirty clothes or an occasional pizza box from the night before sitting around. And it's not a turn on to have a trash can full of used condoms.

These situations make me want to stay closer to home. I have a roommate and she's cool with my being on AdultFriendFinder and even having guys over. But I try to be respectful of her and not have a steady line of people visiting me at night.

What do other people do? One things for sure. If guys want to get more sex they just have to tidy up their apartments. If I have a good experience, like the guy and he's got a nice place he won't be able to keep me away!

Abby
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Active Sex Life and Boring Friends Don't Mix
Posted:Mar 30, 2014 10:32 am
Last Updated:Mar 13, 2019 10:47 am
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It's been a while since I blogged and a lot has gone on in my life so I'm happy to finally have time to add a new post.

A while back I got into a relationship that started as sex but developed into something more later. I guess the guy got tired of it and broke up with me. At first I thought I would just move on but I've realized I was very attached to this guy. I probably spent about a year getting over him and eventually really did move on.

My medicine for a broken heart turned out to be lots of sex. I kept busy reaching out to former fwbs and met a few new partners along the way. I've even been going to a popular sex club nearby. I never assumed this would be a permanent change because settling down and having a family is one of my most cherished life goals. It's getting me what I need for now.

But I've run into a few snags.

For one thing I've come to enjoy having a very sexual lifestyle and am wondering if it's preventing me from having a more serious relationship. All my friends have lots of dates with these great guys while I'm calling up the next fuck buddy.

Some of my friends have even started to hint that they don't approve of my sex life. I've kept it private but never felt like I needed to keep who I sleep with and when a total secret from so called friends.

A few of us are still single or are interested in having very active sex lives without being judged for it. But the others in the group are starting to give lectures about being too slutty or harming their reputations and this is creating a rift in the group.

We've all known each other since high school and none of us want our relationships to end but nothing kills the libido like knowing you're going to get a self rightious lecture the next day.

My roommate has been great through all this. She has a boyfriend but has been incredibly supportive. But there have been parties or events we both didn't get invited to by the others.

I still don't know how I'm going to resolve this but I am reaching out to my friends but realize I may see some of them less than before. If anyone has any advice on this please let me know.

Abby
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Sex on Thanksgiving weekend?
Posted:Nov 28, 2012 8:01 pm
Last Updated:Dec 10, 2012 7:45 pm
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I've already written about the challenges of Halloween sex so now I'm speaking out about sex on Thanksgiving weekend.

The issue I struggle to deal with is that I am very close to my family and really cherish the times we all get together but these holidays totally cripple my sex life.

When I'm at my family home there is a serious lack of privacy even if I'm lucky enough to meet up with I guy I want to sleep with. And there really aren't a whole lot of eligible men in my hometown for sex.

I've still got some friends from high school or college that I meet up with but not many I'd like to fuck. The last year or so I've been coming back a day early and making a date with a fwb. This usually works well but this year my "friend" bailed on me and I was practically dying from a lack of male attention.

Finally several days later I heard that several of my local guy friends were having the same issue with a lack of holiday sex partners and I've been able to meet someone the last two nights after work.

There really needs to be a better way to get laid on the holidays! I'm nervous about this Christmas but pretty confident about New Years, however.
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Getting laid on Halloween
Posted:Nov 7, 2012 8:23 pm
Last Updated:Nov 28, 2012 7:57 pm
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Why is it so incredibly competitive to get laid on Halloween? Maybe it's because everyone else out there, even the women who are not looking for sex, are dressed in slutty costumes and it may actually be a lot harder to stand out from the crowd than usual? For the record I'm very selective about who I sleep with and I'm not a huge fan of one night stands even though I occasionally have them. But it just seems like its so much harder on Halloween. Even my most prudish friends say Halloween is one if the few times they will hook up with someone because it seems like everyone does it and people are less judgemental on this holiday.

In my case I wasn't planning on hooking up on this years Halloween weekend but I was open to it if the right guy came along. I spent Friday flirting with a guy dressed as a Greek god, maybe Hercules? Only to have him meet some girl dressed as a "bikini girl". There was no way my Sexy Little Bo Peep costume could compete with that, even with a very short skirt and plunging cleavage. Ended up going home alone and told myself that was fine. I ended up masturbating for a good 30-45 mins in bed, though which suggested I wasn't fine.

The next night I went to another party. Kept telling myself I wasn't desperate and not to make a fool of myself. Maybe I w kept my guard up too much but I didn't find anyone who appealed to me at that party. In fact I had to fend off several very horny, very drunk guys who were clearly interested. The worst was a guy dressed as Harry Potter. I love the books and movies but that's just too creepy for me. At first I seriously considered him but just didn't need the sex badly enough. Besides he was probably to drunk to perform. He ended up going home with a very unattractive girl dressed as an Eskimo.

Ended up going home alone again and tried calling a friend to help me out but got. His voicemail. spent the next hour or so pleasuring myself. For a minute I even wondered if maybe Harry Potter might not have been that bad but as I sobered up I didn't let it worry me.

The next day my friend called me back and happily said he would meet that afternoon. I thank him for all he did! 😊

Sex is not usually this hard but I go through this every Halloween. Girls, am I imagining things or is this holiday more competitive than usual?
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Having Sex With a Friend's Ex?
Posted:May 10, 2012 3:59 pm
Last Updated:Nov 21, 2012 10:48 pm
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A divorced friend of mine has talked about how great her ex husband is in bed. Appearently this guy sleeps around with all these women and is obsessed with one night stands. My friend said he would be a great hook up but definitely not boyfriend material.

Out of nowhere she started suggesting I might enjoy sleeping with him. I guess she shared a pic of me and the guy has actually contacted me.

He is very good looking and normally I would seriously consider trying this guy but I feel funny possibly sleeping with a friend's ex husband.

And why on earth is my friend trying to get her ex a booty call? She says she's ok with it and may even find the whole thing amusing.

I just don't know what to make of this but I'm still undecided about what I'll do.
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Having Sex With a Friend's Ex?
Posted:May 10, 2012 3:43 pm
Last Updated:Nov 7, 2012 8:16 pm
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A divorced friend of mine has talked about how great her ex husband is in bed. Appearently this guy sleeps around with all these women and is obsessed with one night stands. My friend said he would be a great hook up but definitely not boyfriend material.

Out of nowhere she started suggesting I might enjoy sleeping with him. I guess she shared a pic of me and the guy has actually contacted me.

He is very good looking and normally I would seriously consider trying this guy but I feel funny possibly sleeping with a friend's ex husband.

And why on earth is my friend trying to get her ex a booty call? She says she's ok with it and may even find the whole thing amusing.

I just don't know what to make of this but I'm still undecided about what I'll do.
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Leave the other woman out of it
Posted:Mar 25, 2012 10:12 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2013 7:28 pm
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I'm right in the middle of a serious challenge that is all too common for women on AdultFriendFinder.

The other day I got a mysterious woman sending me an invite through a popular online website. I didn't know who she was but she looked familiar so I accepted.

It turns out she's the serious girlfriend of a guy I had met on AdultFriendFinder a while back. The guy had sent me a lot of pics and vids of him fucking other women including this one. I assume thats where i recognized her.

She sent me some messages and I responded and we actually talked for a while. She seems very nice but I don't like the way the guy has basically dumped the whole situation on me to resolve for him. Right now I'm trying to be open and honest without betraying the guy but obviously this is difficult.

I've tried to avoid married or attached men on AdultFriendFinder but its hard because there are so few single men on here. All I can suggest is that if you are in a relationship really make an effort to be discreet and if you get caught just man up and settle things with your girlfriend/wife without getting the other woman involved.
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